The powerful two-part strategy to tackle any problem

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A few years ago my wife was working as a palliative care nurse. She found the job demanding, exhausting and extremely rewarding.

It takes a special kind of person to care for the dying. Beyond medical skills, hospice nurses develop a bond with their patients, navigate family dynamics and support patients towards a peaceful and dignified death.

“Ends matter, not just for the person but, perhaps even more so, for those who remain.” – Atul Gawande, Mortal Being: Medicine and What Matters in the End

One late afternoon, at the end of my wife’s work week, she arrived home. It had been a long shift, she was tired and suggested we go out for dinner.

“Where would you like to go?” my wife asked.

“Hmm, I don’t know. What would you like to do? “I said.

“A great cocktail and some comfort food,” she offered.

“Well, I can think of several places. It doesn’t matter to me, it doesn’t matter how you feel. I said.

My wife looked at me with discouragement, readjusted the medical bag over her shoulder, and walked into the bedroom to change from her gown.

Like an idiot, I realized too late that my wife wanted a decision, not a discussion. She was tired and hungry.

The answer she needed was something like, “I know the perfect place. Why don’t you change into something comfortable and we’ll be off.

You will never get to do nothing

Are you the kind of person who lets life lead you, or get into the driver’s seat and choose your own destination? If we’re being honest, most of us are probably a bit of both.

We plan, set goals, research, organize and work erratically towards our dreams. Sometimes we are successful, but often there are obstacles and unexpected problems.

“If you push everything back until you are sure of it, you will never get anything.” “- Norman Vincent Peale

Other times, we succumb to fear, questioning, procrastination, laziness and distraction. Our lives can be like a Sisyphus struggle. An endless loop of repetition, in which we never seem to move forward.

How do some people make their dreams come true? How do they get around roadblocks and overcome their problems so effectively?

Stagnant and frozen

Ed Mylett is an author, entrepreneur, and speaker, with an estimated net worth of $ 410 million. In one blog post On its website, Mylett supports the following:

“85% of your problems should be resolved immediately. “

Mylett goes on to state that most of the problems and obstacles in life are caused by indecision. Mylett adds:

“Instead of taking MASSIVE ACTION towards what they want in life, most people stagnate and freeze in the face of a challenge and NEVER make a decision.”

When I first started writing online, I had no idea what I was doing. I was a full-time police chief and a part-time writer. I have posted blog posts on my website, hoping to attract visitors. All I attracted were the crickets.

It went on for a while. I was posting new articles, and not much happened. It was demoralizing. Finally, I decided to do something about it.

I flew to Franklin, Tennessee to take a three-day professional blogging course. I hired a copywriting expert to teach me about titles and what keeps readers reading.

I have invested in online courses, read books, and studied the work of successful bloggers and writers. I realized the importance of perfecting my own style and my own voice, rather than trying to emulate what others were doing.

In 2019, all my efforts started to pay off. I have gained a growing number of readers and have gained almost 70,000 from my writing. What was the secret of my success?

Two words:

Decisive action

I stopped posting and I hope so. I took decisive action by attending this blogging workshop in Franklin, Tennessee. Same thing with hiring a writing coach and the time and money to take online classes and read multiple books.

The universe conspires

A few years before all of this I did something similar with my landscape painting. I was mostly a weekend painter, slowly progressing in my works.

A landscaper that I admired, Scott L. Christensen, offered intermediate and advanced workshops in Idaho. I thought about investing in the workshop, but I was terrified of flying.

It was my wife who convinced me. She booked the flights and got the accommodation. With his little nudge, I put my fears aside and took decisive action.

“Once you’ve made a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

The workshop changed my life, my artistic work improved considerably, and I returned to Idaho for the advanced workshop. Later, Christensen invited me with another artist to a private room.

Decisive action greatly improved my fine art, as well as my writing career. Since then, I have applied decisive action to other areas of my life, from fitness and health to financial decisions and spiritual activities.

There will always be problems and challenges in life. Maybe you are trying to lose weight or overcome an addiction. Maybe you were fired from your job. Or your spouse has just left you after years of marriage.

The wrong thing to do is complain about the problem, cry into your beer, or ignore it. Usually, the more you ignore or avoid a problem, the worse it gets. You will just be more miserable.

John P. Weiss

Taking decisive action has the opposite effect of ignoring the problem. It frees your mind because you are finally taking action. It feels good and works.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it is the ability to deal with them.” – Steve Maraboli, Life, Truth and Being Free

Do your best to find out about the problem quickly. Find out how others resolved the same situation. From permanent weight loss and overcoming addiction to re-employment and finding a new love, others have successfully preceded you. Learn from them.

But don’t suffer from analysis paralysis. An artist who spends an eternity tidying up his studio may never take up painting. Likewise, if you spend forever trying to create perfect conditions, you may never take decisive action.

Taking decisive action has the opposite effect of ignoring the problem. It frees your mind because you are finally taking action. It feels good and works.

“Happiness is not the absence of problems, it is the ability to deal with them.” – Steve Maraboli, Life, Truth and Being Free

Do your best to find out about the problem quickly. Find out how others resolved the same situation. From permanent weight loss and overcoming addiction to re-employment and finding a new love, others have successfully preceded you. Learn from them.

But don’t suffer from analysis paralysis. An artist who spends an eternity tidying up his studio may never take up painting. Likewise, if you spend forever trying to create perfect conditions, you may never take decisive action.

Flood yourself with certainty

Ed Mylett suggests the following three steps to resolve 85% of your problems:

# 1. Take a decision. MAKE ONE. It doesn’t have to be pretty, perfect, or well documented. It doesn’t have to solve the whole problem. It just has to be a decision.

# 2. Inundate yourself with certainty. Decide with confidence that the decision you have made is the right one. A lot of people decide but get stuck and don’t move forward because they keep questioning themselves. Instead of having massive certainty about their decision, they doubt themselves and never act.

# 3. Take massive action. Once you’ve decided, start taking action consistent with that decision. As you take action, you will find out if you made the right decision and adjust accordingly.

Sometimes you take decisive action but need to change or change course along the way. Its good. It is always better to do nothing or hide from your problems.

Focus on probability rather than perfection. There is often no time to conduct an exhaustive research on a problem.

Don’t get bogged down with worrying about a perfect result. Shoot for a reasonable probability of success.

“Perfectionism is not a quest for the best. It’s a pursuit of the worst within ourselves, the part that tells us that nothing we do will ever be good enough – that we should try again. – Julia Cameron

I have missed some opportunities in the past due to avoidance and indecision. I have since learned to embrace decisive action. It is better to get up and move than to sit down and worry.

Decisive Action is a powerful two-part strategy that will help you solve any problem. The more you do it, the better you will overcome obstacles and problems.

Try it out, share it with others, and start creating the life you’ve always dreamed of.

Before you leave

I am John P. Weiss. I draw cartoons, paint and write about life. To get my latest writings and illustrations, subscribe to my free Saturday newsletter here.

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